Love Writings: Writing Apology Love Letters That Work

Loving Love Inspires the Heart to Create Words that Gives Love its Life.

Back in the day, as folks like to say, there was this program  called, “Bewitched” about a modern day witch who was married to a mortal. The premise of the show, if you are unfamiliar with it, was the daily shenanigans that would ensue as Samantha, the witch, tried not to use her powers but always did to get herself or her husband, Darren, out of a jam.

What I was struck with was how often Darren would get fired from his job, which was every episode. Poor Darren was always apologizing for something and it gave me such a negative feeling about apologizing and the way it was used as a weapon, it seemed, by the person receiving the apology.

As I have come to terms with the whole apology factor in my own life, I set about trying to give some general guidelines for an apology love letter.

First of all, let’s look at the meaning as it applies here; An apology is, “An expression of regret at having caused trouble for someone.”

From a personal standpoint, if you have grieved someone’s soul with your actions, you probably need to deal with it somehow. The important thing here is to first come to terms with it within you. Forgive yourself first and then let it go. This frees you to then focus on the other person and their feelings.

Then, from the heart, list the reasons why you think it has grieved the other person; what do you think they felt as a result of what you did. Remember that this is just a list of things from your perspective.

The key here is to believe it has happened, that you realize that you have possible said or done something. If you are just apologizing to “Stay out of the doghouse” then, as Tony Soprano would say, “Forgetaboutit”.

Once you have the list, then carefully look at it and, for however many points there are on your list, make a statement of love and apology for each of them.

After that is done, then form a cohesive thought from all of the statements into a apology love letter.

The important aspect of the apology love letter is to end always with a positive feeling of appreciation of love for your partner.

So in summary, forgive yourself, release the incident to God and then go about writing from your partner’s perspective how you he realized that you were wrong and end with a positive affirmation on the strength of the relationship.

In the End, Love is All There is, So Let Your Words be Your Beginning.